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Separated Parenting Workshop – Special offer!

We have a special offer during March 2019 for our Separated Parent Information Programme (SPIP) – attend for only £50!

This one-day course is designed to help separated parents become clear about what their children need most from them and learn the fundamental principal of how to manage conflict and difficulties, including how to put this into practice.

The SPIP encourages parents to take steps for themselves. It is often better to reach an agreement away from the court and the programme can help make sure that any agreement made is based on the child’s needs. It aims to help both parents to improve communication skills as separated parent.

A SPIP might be appropriate for parents, and other caregivers with parental responsibility, when:

  • you have difficulty focusing on your children’s needs due to ongoing conflict
  • you find that your feelings and reactions to the separation are affecting your ability to communicate about your children
  • you would like communication to improve – perhaps you are thinking about mediation
  • there are no safeguarding concerns about children or parents

The programme covers:

  • Working as separated parents in the best interests of your children
  • What children need – you will watch a powerful DVD made by young people
  • Parent communication – you will be asked to think about prepared scenarios from other viewpoints and to see other practical methods that can help both parents react better to stress
  • Emotions – you will look at the emotional effect of separation or being separated parents and the options for moving forward

If this sounds like a course that can help you then please give us a call on 01223 576308, or email us on to take advantage of our March £50 special offer (usual cost is £75).

What is a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM)?

What is a MIAM?

This is a meeting between you and a mediator to look at the various ways you may be able to find solutions to the issues facing you and your ex-partner. The meeting can last up to an hour.


Having heard from you about your particular circumstances, the mediator will help you look at the range of options available for resolving family disputes, including:


  1. Mediation – where both of you meet with a mediator to discuss and resolve issues
  2. Collaborative law – where you and both your solicitors all meet to resolve issues
  3. Negotiation through solicitors
  4. Litigation through court
  5. Arbitration


The mediator will help you look at the pros and cons of each of these options. It may be that one option is more suitable to resolve issues about the children and another to come to a financial settlement.


The mediator can also give you information about other services that provide help and support to families going through separation or divorce.


Do I have to attend a MIAM?

You do not have to come to this meeting, unless you are thinking of starting court proceedings because you cannot agree arrangements for your children (other than child protection issues) or your finances following your separation. In either of these situations, you will, usually, need to show the court that you have been to a MIAM and the mediator will give you the appropriate form, confirming this. The other person will also, usually, need to show that they have also been to a MIAM.


There are some exceptions to people having to attend a MIAM.


How much does a MIAM cost?

You will be charged £109 (inclusive of VAT) for a MIAM, unless you are eligible for Legal Aid.  The mediator can assess your eligibility for Legal Aid if you wish.

Free mediation available for more people!

GREAT NEWS! From the Autumn of 2014, the Legal Aid Agency will fund significantly more mediation. If one party is entitled to legal aid, then BOTH PARTIES will receive a FREE Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) plus a FREE Mediation Session. To find out whether you might be entitled to free mediation call us on 01223 576308.

Separated Parents Information Programme available for free

SEPARATED PARENTS INFORMATION PROGRAMME is now available to all for free, 

The Separated Parents Information Programme (SPIP) is a course designed to help separated parents, grandparents and other family members become clear about what their children need most from them and learn the fundamental principles of how to manage conflict and difficulties.

SPIP has been running very successfully since 2008, but until recently, it has only been available for clients who are involved in court proceedings.  Now it is available to anyone for free!  Book soon to take advantage of a free place.

Most parents attending the course find it extremely helpful – here’s what some parents have said:-

“The right thing for my children, and myself – in that order”

“I know this is how I need to be for my children”

“I’d recommend the course to anyone who has separated from their partner, with children – even where conflict is minimal”

“The trainers have displayed in depth understanding of the emotional effects of stress involving parent children relationship.”

“Great clear, concise information and opportunity to hear other people’s experience and ask questions to improve my children’s emotional environment in the separation process”

“I found this course very informative and it certainly changed my outlook and views.  (Brilliant).”

“A very useful course, helped understand both parties situation and how we can make the separated process better for the children”

“Excellent presentation.  Very well prepared and made the day relaxed.  A lot better than expected”





Clients describe their own experiences of separation and mediation

National Family Mediation have produced a number of videos, including a guide to MIAMS and mediation.

View videos

A guide to MIAMs and mediation; client stories and their mediation experiences