Archive for February 1, 2017

Valentine’s Day… Love it or Hate it?

For couples who are separating, Valentine’s Day can be just another unwelcome reminder that things aren’t working any more. It can bring to the surface feelings of loss and disappointment – loss of a once-loving relationship, and disappointment that those romantic hopes with which you started life together have not ended ‘happily ever after’.  The shops are full of Valentine’s cards almost as soon as Christmas is over, you’re bombarded by reminders wherever you look on the high street, and even the TV offers no escape from the constant barrage of advertisements concerning the dreaded V-Day celebrations.

If you’re wondering how to get through it – could you organise to do something you enjoy with a friend who is single, indulge yourself with a treat you wouldn’t normally consider, or think about doing something nice for someone else who may be lonely – for example, an elderly neighbour?

At Cambridge Family Mediation Service, we understand that important dates such as birthdays, anniversaries, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Christmas, New Year and Valentine’s Day can trigger unhappy thoughts and feelings for families who are in the midst of separation and / or divorce. You may find it helpful to attend one of our FREE 4-hour workshops, the Separated Parents Information Programme (SPIP).

The course provides:

  • Tips to help you to understand the different stages of the Loss Cycle that adults and children experience as a result of family breakdown
  • Suggestions to help you and your children to move forward
  • Ways to focus on what parents can do to help children manage family change
  • Strategies to help you to improve communication with your ex.

The courses take place both in Cambridge and in Peterborough, and run from 10 am – 2.30 pm.

We also offer a Mediation Service for people who have decided to separate, and who wish to make agreements about their children and / or their finance and property issues. If you would like to know more about this, you can book an appointment for a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM) with one of our highly experienced mediators. There is a fee for the MIAM meeting, but if you are on a low income we can assess you for legal aid – if you are eligible then the mediation process would be free for you (although your ex may have to pay if they do not qualify for legal aid in their own right).


Call us on 01223 576308 to:

  • Book a place on the Separated Parents Information Programme (SPIP) course
  • Arrange a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM).